5 Common Lies Parents Unconsciously Say to Their Kids

Parents also lie to their kids, it just not as obvious or they don’t even realize it at all. You may have thought your children not to lie, but continually saying these lies as your kids grow older, teaches them to lie as well. Here are some of the lies parents tell their children unconsciously every day.

1. “It won’t hurt, promise.”
They need to get vaccinated but are screaming, and you need to stop the tantrums so the shot can be done. However, the screaming happens because your child knows you’re not telling the truth. You also said it won’t hurt the first time they had a shot, so they know better by now. Rather than giving false hopes, let them know that it’s going to be really quick and then it’s over. Explain why they need the shot.

2. “You are the best singer!”
…or artist, or dancer, or anything your child might be doing awfully. Don’t bother praising if you’re not sincere. Because believe it or not, children aren’t as gullible as you think they are. They can read your body language and tone of voice—they know when you’re not completely truthful to your words. Instead of praising an end product, praise the abilities they have shown while doing the activity.

3. “Be there in a minute.”
Yes, you want to be the one to tuck your child to bed or help them do their homework, but you’re also cooking dinner and want to finish up some chore. Then, just be honest to them. Tell them you need to finish something and then you can help them. Do not say you’ll be there in a minute when you know it’s going to take longer.

4. “We don’t have the money to buy that.”
Rather than telling your child this, explain it in a way that they will understand. Tell them you are all planning to go on vacation that’s why you’re saving up and can’t buy more toys. Help your child understand that sometimes greater things involve sacrifices. Not only you’re teaching your child a valuable lesson, but you’re also saving yourself from telling a lie.

5. “Santa Claus is watching you.”
If your children are fighting and you want them to stop, give them an acceptable punishment instead of threatening them that Santa is watching and won’t give them gifts for being naughty. Punish them by taking away their electronics or banning them from the cookie jar. These punishments work just as effectively since your children know that their bad behaviour has immediate consequences.

Any lies made to anyone, no matter how big or small, can be damaging. It can damage your credibility in the eyes of your child and can damage your child’s trust in you. As a parent, you want to have an open relationship with your child, but this can greatly diminish because of trust issues due to the small lies told during the formative years.

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