Saying “yes” most of the time entails some sort of commitment such as work opportunities, social invitations, expensive skin care, boss’ requests, marriage etc. basically everything! While one is expected to say yes to these things, learning to say the other way around—especially when your heart is not into it, can actually have sweet benefits.
Here are the justifiable reasons why it is OK to say NO:
- It gives you freedom. Humans as we are, we don’t really mean all our “Yeses”, sometimes we’re just forced to say it because we are afraid to hurt or disappoint the people around us. But when you feel like saying no, it saves you energy from doing things you don’t want and you play fair not just to these people but to yourself most importantly. It would be such a relief if you can just say no. you just have to learn the right words to say and courage to do it.
- You’ll have lesser regrets to look back to. Again, this can be a result of saying yes to things you never wanted. When you look back, one way or another, you will have your share of regrets why you wasted so much time about something or someone, or maybe why you haven’t spent your attention to what you really want!
- You will not miss out on anything. At certain point, especially adults in the professional world experience this feeling. When saying no to a job opportunity for example, a feeling of missing out something sets in. But whether it’s about saying no to a night out or job opportunity, it does not mean that you already missed out half of your life—sometimes, you feel like saying no because it was not meant for you and you are smart to figure that out.
- You will be respected for it. When you always say yes to everyone, you are giving them the opportunity and right to get whatever they need from you. If you want others to respect you (your time, decision etc.), you have to respect yourself first and saying no to things you don’t want is the first step. After all, some people would hate you for declining but if they truly care about you and would want to stay in your life, they will understand and respect you for saying NO.
